Several well-known professional athletes have transitioned into church ministry and leadership, including notable figures such as Roberto Firmino, Derwin Gray, and Miles McPherson. Roberto Firmino, the former Brazilian and Liverpool striker, was officially ordained as an evangelical pastor at Manah Church, a congregation he co-founded in Maceió, Brazil.

After a six-year NFL career with the Indianapolis Colts and Carolina Panthers, Derwin Gray founded Transformation Church in South Carolina, which now reaches thousands of congregants.

Miles McPherson, a former San Diego Chargers defensive back, became the senior pastor of Rock Church in San Diego, one of the largest churches in Southern California.

Jason Elam, an NFL player who spent 15 years with the Denver Broncos and still holds the record for the longest untied field goal, later shifted his focus to Christian ministry and missions.

Wayne Watson, a former American football player for the Chicago Bears, went on to become a renowned musician and Christian pastor.

The phenomenon of pursuing a life-changing direction often emerges unexpectedly, as seen in the stories of these athletes who chose entirely different careers. They left well-established professional paths to fulfill a different calling—and this serves as an important entry point for understanding the dilemmas that also arise in family businesses.

In family businesses, the company’s future often rests on the shoulders of the children. From a young age, they become familiar with the ins and outs of the business. They watch their parents work hard, discuss strategies, and occasionally involve them in day-to-day operations. Over time, the assumption unconsciously takes root that one day they will continue the business.

However, as time passes, reality can turn out quite differently.

The younger generation no longer automatically accepts that role. They live in an era of openness, endless possibilities, and a strong desire to discover their true selves. For some, inheriting the family business is not a dream, but a heavy burden.

This is where conflict begins to surface. Parents often see the business as a legacy that must be preserved, while children view life as a personal journey that should follow their own aspirations. When an heir chooses a different path—even one considered unconventional—conflict can seem inevitable.

So, what should be done?

First, try changing the perspective. Instead of viewing the business as “an inheritance that must be passed on,” consider it “a choice.” Many parents, consciously or unconsciously, treat their business as something that must be inherited. Yet in today’s world, business sustainability cannot be built on obligation alone. It must grow from commitment born out of free will.

Forcing a child to take over the business carries significant risks. They may agree outwardly, but without genuine commitment or a true sense of ownership. In the long run, this can weaken the business’s competitiveness. Conversely, when the next generation becomes involved voluntarily, they are more likely to bring fresh energy, innovative ideas, and new perspectives that the business desperately needs.

Second, engage in honest and equal dialogue. Many family businesses struggle because communication is often one-sided: parents speak while children simply listen. Young people need space to express their dreams without fear of judgment. They want to be heard, not merely directed.

This dialogue should go beyond asking, “Do you want to take over the business or not?” It should explore deeper questions: What do they truly want in life? What values matter most to them? Can the family business become part of their personal journey?

Third, separate “business matters” from “family matters.” Although this may sound cliché, it remains highly relevant. Many conflicts arise because these two areas become deeply intertwined without clear boundaries. When a child refuses to continue the business, parents may interpret it as rejecting the family itself. In reality, those are two entirely different matters.

By separating the two, business decisions can be approached more professionally. If the child chooses not to continue the business, other options should be considered: professionalizing management, hiring an external CEO, or even restructuring the business model. The modern business world offers many alternatives beyond simply passing the company on to a biological child.

Fourth, the concept of succession itself may need to be reevaluated. Involvement does not always have to mean managing day-to-day operations. The younger generation may not want to become the primary leader, yet they can still contribute as active shareholders, board members, or strategic partners from outside the industry. This creates room for flexibility without severing ties with the family business.

Fifth, accept that choosing an unconventional life path is not a sign of failure. In many cases, it is precisely through these different paths that new values emerge. A child who pursues a career in another field may bring cross-industry insights, broader networks, and even unexpected opportunities for expansion.

Moreover, the younger generation’s decision not to join the family business can serve as an important reflection for parents: Is the business still attractive to the next generation? Is the business model still relevant? Is the company culture adaptable to changing times? These are essential questions for achieving true sustainability—not merely completing a formal succession process.

Ultimately, a family business is not only about preserving what already exists, but also about having the courage to evolve with the times.

The next generation is not merely a group of heirs; they are individuals with their own aspirations, values, and visions. When families are able to respect this, relationships can remain strong, and the business itself will have a greater opportunity to grow—with or without the direct involvement of the next generation.

Because in a constantly changing world, sustainability is no longer determined by who takes over, but by how well a system can adapt to change.

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